Verbal Abuse in Marriage
Verbal abuse in marriage is difficult to
identify and regrettably the most common type of abuse in
some marriages. There are a lot of words in this world but
not all the words are meant to hurt someone. A person who
is good in making verbal abuse can damage your self-esteem
while at the same time appears to care for you deeply.
Physical abuse is easy to identify. Once you have been hit
without any reasons, you are considered being physically
abused. You don’t second guess yourself because the bruises and
scars are visible and that abuse has taken place. Physical
abuse is superficial. Verbal abuse is different because the
pain and the damage are internal. There are no bruises or
scars, just a wounded spirit and a damaged self-esteem.
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Being called names by your spouse is one form of a verbal
abuse and it is unacceptable if any form of negative names
calling is been called. There are names that are obvious and
are indicative of abuse. There are covert, veiled attempts to
put a spouse down that are harder to identify. Verbal abusers
love to use constructive criticism to beat their spouse down.
If your spouse is continuously and constantly criticizing you
‘for your own good”, be careful. This is the most deceptive
form of verbal abuse. Other abusers are using words to shame.
Critical, sarcastic, and mocking words meant to put a spouse
down either alone or in front of other people. Yelling,
screaming and swearing are common. You are living with someone
who goes verbally ballistic over very little cause. Another
type of abuse is blaming you for there mistake actions and
behaviors and displaces his anger towards you. Abusers also use
words that will threaten there spouses. No threat should
be taken lightly, even if your spouse is saying that he is only
joking and he did not really mean to threaten you, especially
if it causes you to change your behaviors or to feel on guard
in the relationship. The persistent and consistent use of
threatening words to get you to do something or you act in a
way that you find uncomfortable. This type of abuse manipulates
your action. This form of verbal abuses takes place in the end
of a marriage. If your spouse does not want a divorce, they
will say whatever it takes to play on your emotions and
feelings, to get you to stay in the marriage. All in attempt to
get you to comply with there desires, regardless of what is
best for you as an individual.
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Verbal abuses often make you wonder why you feel bad. You
hear words of abuse and get hurt and you intend to burry it and
continue working so hard at keeping at peace that everyday
becomes an emotional chore. You feel depressed and even
wondered if you are crazy. Your feelings are rejected as your
spouse refuses to discuss issues that may upset you. They avoid
any discussion of any topic that they might have to take
responsibility for their action and words.
If your spouse who is the closest to habitually, verbally
abuses you and rejects your feelings, you will start to see
yourself and your needs as unimportant and not taken into
consideration. When you finally recognize and come to terms
with the idea that you are being verbally abused in your
marriage, you need to become focused on getting help.